Perhaps like me, you have found life to feel much like a treasure hunt, gathering bits and pieces, looking high and low in all sorts of places for something we call “love.”
There are many perspectives on this subject, but the kind of love I want to focus on is the type that speaks to our deepest feelings of self-love, knowing we are safe and secure—the type of experience that releases us from worry, where you can give and receive freely.
Many of us chase the elusive sense of worthiness and respect by denying ourselves, in hopes someone outside us will see our value and tell us how to feel.
In my experience, we tend to hit a wall of exhaustion and extreme disappointment when our needs are overlooked and our sacrifices are unacknowledged.
Finding Love in Yourself
The journey to finding your inner treasures is an astounding experience where we discover something beyond price, something within ourselves that yearns to be expressed. This opens us up to a greater, fulfilling sense of self in recognizing our own unique design and significant place in the world.
The process of finding this naturally can take years and years of soul searching, stepping toward more of our true desires for experiences and further away from the fenced-in restrictions of our beliefs about the world. This journey can be daunting and difficult. It takes a lot of hope, courage, and faith in oneself.
How to do it:
Taking steps into more playful approaches can seem counter-intuitive, but is a highly recommended success strategy often found in educational, self-help, and psychological industries. Often times we make our most important discoveries while at rest or at play. You’d be surprised at what you find when you give your brain a break.
Everyone desires to have a life of security, significance, and adventure. We love stories of heroic victories, especially after agonizing defeats and unbeatable odds. You can clearly see this in sports, which illustrates the importance of having a positive mindset and a “never give up” attitude as being an essential part of the game plan.
We all dream about our goals and need to face our challenges. It takes courage to continue to get up and move forward, and as champions, it can be hard to always have hope no matter what happens.
However, pressing forward in the difficult times has incredible value, because there is a thrill in finding solutions that would not occur to us without the need to overcome obstacles to find meaning in the seemingly obscure puzzles of life.
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Each mountain climbed and every pile of dirt sifted through reveals experiences that may not look like much until they are cleaned up and refashioned into priceless gems.
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We can add these gems to our treasure box of accumulated “Experience Gems,” much like the ones I use in my game, beautiful pearls of wisdom that guide us as we go further.
Noticing the vast array of resources and systems surrounding us, supporting our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual/soul needs to bring confidence. It all culminates together in one key concept: relationships.
Navigating these relationships with patience, kindness, understanding, and trust (in other words, “love”) directly impacts our ability to experience trials with ease and grace. This grace is invaluable as we move through what is less than ideal toward our vision of fulfilling our deepest-desired, soul-level experiences.
Through my Journeying, it has become apparent that within each of us is a spirit more powerful and connected beyond our common understanding. Tapping into this wisdom, and bringing intuition to the forefront of our awareness is the journey our soul is yearning for us to take.
My mission is to join with those who are working through the feeling that it is easier to love others better than we do ourselves. After the pain of denying ourselves the love we freely give others, we must make a personal commitment to recognizing that we must first step up to do the work to heal our own hearts before we can heal our families and communities.
There is absolutely a path to override the inner struggle of feeling unworthy and unlovable.
Seeking answers outside yourself, of realizing the miracle of all of the circumstances that had to come together to make you exactly as you are, is the path to gain clarity and perspective.
It is a marvel that the universe was arranged just so for you to come into existence. That uniqueness alone already makes you valuable beyond measure.
If this resonates with you, I invite you to contact me and share your ideas on learning self-love. Let us know how your journey is coming along!